Wednesday, December 6, 2017


savasana after bedtime yoga

Parenting a toddler is no joke. As a friend wisely warned me, the highs get higher and the lows get lower. Current lows include saying no to everything until I ask are you going to say no to everything? "Yes."

Also - bedtime. What used to be a ten-minutes-tops routine has turned into an hour (or longer) production of books (five minimum - thanks a lot Ian Falconer), piggies, letters, songs etc. and still ends in tears. And my daughter cries too 😜 On one hand, I value this mommy daughter time more than anything in the world. Especially after being neglected by Liv for a hot minute (that felt like forever). But this special mommy daughter time comes after I've been going nonstop for 13 hours.

All good, but all exhausting. By the time bedtime rolls around I'm spent, hangry and craving the cliche-but-coveted "me time." Any tips from the parents or caretakers out there on cutting back on bed time routines?


P.S. Joanna this was spot on. Tell me it gets better?


  1. Amy,
    Knowing my seemingly never-ending struggle with bedtime, Blair pointed me to your blog post. I feel your struggle. As they say, it is real.

    The thing i've learned, the hard way of course, is that bedtime is the most fraught place for the classic child-parent struggle: a simultaneous desire for independence / control and for help / fixing. When they are tired, the conflict between these two desires becomes entangled in a way that is upsetting and confusing for everyone. The things I try to do, which work only if i stick to them and remain very calm and patient in the process, are to set expectations before we start the routine (i.e 3 books, a song, and i will sit in here for 2 minutes) and to stay calmly committed to those limits/boundaries. It is so very hard when you are tired and hungry (for food and alone time) to do the latter. It often feels so much easier to give in so they stop pushing. But i do think that as much as they want you to stay and give in to every last silly request, they also want to know where the boundaries are. It ultimately makes them feel safer to find the edge than it does when everyone devolves into hysteria. It definitely takes time and requires a lot of comforting reminders (to the sleepy weepy kid and to the frustrated vulnerable mama) that sleep is really important and the time has come for sleep to happen. And when they do it, I make a big fuss in the morning about what a fantastic bedtime it was and how brave (or strong or whatever) they were to do it without all the extras. Their pride usually makes it feel worth the pain. At least for a moment.


  2. Sarah! Thank you, thank you for this feedback. Seriously I am going to follow this advice and I love your perspective. xoxo



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